The tantrums I’ve experienced with my toddler
As a first-time mother, I strive for perfection in raising my boy. Obviously, this is isn’t possible but it does not stop me from researching every little detail before making every little decision relating to my child’s life. One aspect that always comes up is to never laugh at or react in a negative way during a child’s breakdown (or tantrum) as this behaviour chips away at their confidence and creates doubt in their everyday decision making. – something I don’t want him to have as an adult.
As much I try to always keep a level head when a tantrum or
breakdown happens, I have realised that I am also human and have a character of
my own. One of my traits is finding the humour behind the reasoning of the
tantrum which at times results in me working really hard on holding it in. I
have decided to list the various tantrums experienced below:
1. Tantrum for parking on the paving and not the
gravel as parking on the gravel makes a noise. Each time that he jumps out the
car, he checks that all four wheels are on the gravel.
2. Tantrum for parking with the car’s back wheels
not fully over the curb. Each time that he jumps out the car, he checks that
the back wheels are not at the bottom of the curb.
3. Tantrum for slicing the banana for snack time.
4. Tantrum for not driving his toy car correctly
during play time
5. Tantrum for the steering wheel on the car not kept
straight after parking
It is observed that most tantrums stem from car related
things. As humans we try to control the environment around us. It gives us a
sense of “having it together”. We breakdown when we feel like we have lost this
control. We believe our environment is under control if its familiar to us,
which is probably what my son is looking for. This leads me to asking, who is
setting these standards for him? Definitely not me!
I wish I read this, when I was raising my children. This feels like going into the bloggers head, while she takes time in understanding her son.
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